In my mind there’s different kinds of attraction when it comes to love;
- Purely superficial, phsycial attraction.
- Emotional attraction.
- A combination of the two.
The first one is often (to me) a very short termed attraction, it doesn’t always last. One example immediatley comes to mind;
It was a couple of summers ago I was out and about bar-hopping when I saw this guy. It was mindblowing. Today I can’t for the life of me remember exactly what he looked like but to the ca. 19-year old me he was basically a God. I remember the feeling I experienced when we locked eyes; it was this pure, take-your-breath-away moment, and to that day I had never experienced something so strong. He had brown eyes, something I’ve always had a soft spot for and he just oozed masculinity and, it’s so hard to describe that feeling of your mind going comepletely blank. In a way I remember feeling scared, because I knew that whatever he asked of me; I wouldn’t be able to say no.
But, it faded, it’s amazing that something that literally blew my mind in one second just evaporated the next. Superficial, not even meaningful but an experience that I’ll never forget I had.
The second one is something that usually brews over time. You can’t be emotionally attracted, in my opinion, to someone you’ve just met. You have to get to know the person for real and just connect in a way.
I’ve experienced connection with someone immediatly, but also a connection that grew over time.
The last one is the most important one, it’s what me and The Man have. When we first met it wasn’t one of those take-my-breath-away moments instantly but something drew me to him. I’m not sure if it was something in his eyes, or his smile but something made me go talk to him. Over time we’ve realized how similar and at the same time different we are. I’ve never experienced such an intimate attraction/connection that we have, it’s something that has come over time. It’s an attraction on so many levels that I can’t even begin to describe it…and even if 21 year old me didn’t realize it back then, present me knows that he is the love of my life.